No, we were less picky then, and took whomever was interested. Now we can talk to 5 men at the same time and we have choices. And we can talk to them whenever now because we can get away with texting during work hours.
I dunno. After reading The Rules (which was published in 1996), it makes it clear that men back then actually had to TRY in order to entice a woman. For example, none of these 10pm texts saying “come over and cuddle and watch a movie” shit (why did this ever become acceptable?!). Like they had to call your house phone and if you weren’t home, they had to leave a message on your answering machine or call back!
I know I’m way too accessible, and that’s something I need to work on. Also, it seems like men these days just expect or assume you are going to hook up with them after a date or two. And did they actually suggest REAL date ideas in 1996? I’m thinking so. Maybe I’m just an alien, but I haven’t the slightest idea how women keep men interested for three months (or however long Patti and The Rules suggest) before you spend the night with a homedude. I’m ALL kinds of down for talking to multiples guys at once, but like I said, it just seemed like things were less complicated and men had to put in more effort before all these different devices came into play and before women (myself included) made things so easy for them.
So over this past week I’ve been out twice with this new guy. He’s a race car driver/instructor. Who also happens to have the same name as my 16 year old brother haha I haven’t quite yet decided if I like him or not, but I sure as hell know I like his body haha
The first night we just met up for drinks (for 4 hours, totally against The Rules). He talked a lot, but I figured he was just excited to have someone to talk to. He’s pretty new in town and doesn’t really know anyone so he said he doesn’t go out hardly ever. I do love listening to other people’s experiences so I didn’t really mind. When I got home, he texted me all these sweet things about how he was happy to have met me and how he wanted me to come over and cuddle and shit (yeah right haha) But yeah it was like 3am on a school night so no way in hell was I about to do that.
The next day we’re texting and he’s saying how he wants to see me again so I’m like, eh I’m not busy after work wanna watch a movie? (also totally against The Rules) Got a redbox (the second Wrath of the Titans, don’t waste your time!) and we cuddled but he didn’t kiss me or anything. Then we went and got food at like 10:30pm. And he started talking my ear off again! Telling me all these stories (some of which i didn’t care anything about) and he never really asked me about myself. He mentioned this night and the previous one that he “hated talking about himself” and would rather hear about me….his actions did NOT show this to be the case. So we’re on the way back to his place and I’m like, so are we gonna cuddle some more? (had to make it worth my while!) haha So we were cuddling and talking on his couch and he leans over and kisses me (it was good!) Then we’re all making out and after a bit, he starts trying to take off my clothes. I’m like, “are we gonna do this here?” and he PICKS me up (dude is 6’4 and made me feel light as a feather) and carries me into his bedroom. Yadda yadda we didn’t color, but he was very good with his tongue haha Obviously this was extremely against The Rules. He was pretty gentlemanly even though he realllllyyyyyy wanted to bone. It was so much fun teasing him! So I slept over, he walked me to my car the next morning and kissed me goodbye.
We were going to go out AGAIN last night (more Rules breaking) but I was soooo tired from our two previous nights dates that I told him I had to cancel. He said, “always another time :)” And I pretty much haven’t heard from him since then. THIS is where my Rules training is going to kick in. I refuse to text him. Before our second impromptu date thing, we had agreed on hanging out on Sunday. We’ll see if he gets in touch. Also we’re friends on fb womp womp
Onto the firefighter Marine, we texted pretty much the whole day yesterday and he got back into town in the afternoon. We texted a little bit last night (including a text from him at midnight saying “Are you alive?”) I texted him today telling him about this concert next month that I thought he’d be interested in and all he said was, “haha sweet!” This is the only contact we’ve had all day. He’s pretty much asked me how work is going every day since we started talking and today, nothing. Not really sure what to think about it. We’re supposed to go out tonight, right? haha I know he said he had a lot of errands to run today but still seems strange. He hasn’t asked where I live so I guess if I haven’t heard from him by the time he’s supposed to pick me up (7:30pm) then I’ll have my answer. We are also friends on fb haha
Thank sweet baby jesus its the weekend!
Haha if he likes you he will like you no matter what you look like! Don’t worry too much about it I’m sure it will be fine :)
Oh stop it! Be open, fun, and outgoing! Don’t act like you didn’t get all sweaty walking around with that movie guy!
I’d just admit it in a funny way: “I’m all up for surprises, as long as you don’t mess with my hair.” If he’s cool he’ll understand :)
Wear your hear in a cute up-do? I guess it would have to be low on your head if you’ll be wearing a helmet?
Oh girl, just go with it and have fun!!! I’d totally be down for some Go-Kart Racing on a first date!!
Liz thought I was being silly for even thinking I’d be wearing a helmet….she doesn’t watch as much tv as I do
So yeah, I’ve decided if Kim can go go-karting in her damn wig, I can do it, too! And I agree with y’all and lifeoftheabsolutelyoptimistic, if he likes me it won’t matter! Just gonna go with the flow. The Rules say be easy going and that’s what I’m gonna do!
ataleoftwosirens answered your question: major lols at black girls and their hair. Tis a complex life we live. Siren A x
Gurrrrrrl my first and foremost concern is for my hurrrr
I’m going to read it and study it and try to apply it to my own interactions with men/boys/manbeasts.
I’m already screwed, “don’t leave the house without wearing makeup”….
This should prove interesting.